Quote Originally Posted by her_Joe
I'm reaching a different conclusion, and not sure which if either is correct -- that you can be identified, just not by a prescribed sign or set of signs, that usually it's a sense or attitude or feel communicated via something like a "vibe" -- no?

hJ

Once again, I'm with you. Behaviors, jewelry, or clothing that looks BDSM-related could just be a relationship dynamic or fashion statement. I think there are plenty of BDSM-ers running around in suits and ties, or shorts and T-shirts, looking quite innocent. But sometimes you just get that feeling.