victims of abuse support for submissives

[Rowen]

I always thought my want for submission was wrong. That it was some horrible manifestation of my ever-present role of the abused. I know it's a part of me and maybe that is part of it, but it's something I'm coming to terms to dealing with.

I cannot tell just how familiair this sounds...then again... can be liberating to experience that some people dont take advantage of you when you have surrendered!

I'm much stronger now and realize that just because I was abused does not make my mom the monster many would paint her to be. She was older when she had me. Older and blind, literally. It does not negate what she did. It wasn't right. But she is human. She made big mistakes. But I have started the process of forgiving her.

Yes. she wasnt a monster but still did monstruos things to you. Still, I admire that you are able to understand, yet realise that understanding it doesn't mean you approve it.

i'm finally starting to get a handle on it. two years, 8 months self injury free!

Awesome - my respect

I didn't actually piece together the abuse/rape by these two woman until I met my current partner/Domme. She has her own abuse history and her telling me about what she remembers triggered nightmares and memories long buried.

I was wondering if anyone else shares abuse histories with their Domme and if so, how do you deal with it? BDSM sex is sometimes great, sometimes triggers us both. We work hard to communicate and to let each other know when things are going south, but sometimes one or the other feels stupid and keeps going anyway. We spend hours after dealing with the repercussions, trying to work through it. It's sex therapy in the most literal sense.

Think you hit the bullseye here: talk. Talk to each other and yes.. it can and will be sex therapy. And it will strengthen and deepen your relationship by giving you both the opportunity to share, to comfort, to heal together. Sounds to me the two of you are doing very well indeed after most diffiuclt years.