Originally posted by enseignez-moi:
the first time the word "abuse" came up in therapy I was appalled. That's not me!
The very same thing happened to me in therapy, but unlike you I spent many more years suffering, and hoping no one found out, until I got help.

And keep talking with your Domme. Triggers can be anywhere, it's just that you both have a style of relationship where they are easier to dig up. With time they will fade as you get a handle on them.