Love and BDSM----Question?

[sidhewolf]

Does love really have anything to do with BDSM?

Or Is love a seperate entity from BDSM and vice versa?

Can you love BDSM and not love the partner your doing it with?

Or do most think in order to do or be part of a BDSM Relataionship one must be in love?

I ask these questions because, 1) I have had BDSM relationships that were intense but we were not in love and 2) I don't believe love and BDSM necessarrily have to be linked in order for a good BDSM realationship to exist and last.

All I see is 1) physical attraction to such a point ya would have sex with the person 2) Mental attraction where the two of you have many simular interests in the lifestyle and some out of it and 3) Respect and and trust must be present. AM I wrong on these accounts or what?

It can go either way IMO/E. Though I'd find myself hardpressed to say I actually Love anything that is not a Living thing. I don't think nor have the experience that tells me >one Must be In Love with, or even Love the Chosen Partner. While Trust is an Absolute necessity! SSC is a great standard. However there are still risks in WIITWD. Does one take these risks with someone one does not Trust? Granted some will, I won't.

Being In Love with, or Loving the Chosen Partner does enhance the overall experience and perceptions I believe.

Attraction can be a good thing depending on the Play one is going to participate in. There is many times not sex involved, but if there's going to be sex involved it's nice to have attraction also <G>. And then again depending on the activity, there is at times sex involved that has nothing to do with attraction.

So my thoughts on the end questions are;

#1 Not necessarily.

#2 The mental attraction due to interests and activities shared. And the remaining portion only if an ongoing Partner Style Relationship is being sought by both people.

#3 An absolute Must IMNSHO/E.

Just my thoughts and experience.

Respectfully~SidheWolf