Quote Originally Posted by delia View Post
There's lying and then there's lying... big picture? You can't possibly be truthful 100% of the time to 100% of the people. You CHOOSE who you are honest with 100% of the time, and everything & everyone else just has to take a backseat... it is what it is.

Some people choose to be 100% truthful with their partner, others with their kids, some with a best friend... at some level most feel some subconscious need to "confess" about everything they've "lied" about to others--so you pick someone to do this with.

That being said... a D/s Dominant is often a submissive's "person"--the one person they never lie to because they just aren't able. Is this a case of control? Nah, not really, imo. It's more a sense of wanting to be fully open & availible to the Dominant at all times--AND, somewhat the result of picking the Dominant as "that person" they will always tell the truth to.

Enough psychobabble, onto reality.

Does that mean a submissive should confess every little thing to their Dominant? Hell no. A Dominant, imo, expects a submissive to be able to use their judgement (within the rules, guidelines & lifestyle the Dominant has placed the submissive in) and know what the important things are to confess and what is just useless stuff that doesn't need to be brought up, wasting the time of the Dominant. It's all about logic: you can't confess your entire day of wrongdoings: it would take hrs. So you pick the things that are the best use of your Dominant's time to confess and let the rest lay...

Best rule of thumb? If it bothers you, talk about it. If it doesn't, move on. As always, KISS.
there are lies and there are lies.
I do not think it is possible to go through a week, or even a day without a lie.
Self awareness is important for us all. I once did a little tally count on the number of lies and falsehoods I perpetrated in a day. Once I became sensitive to the process of catching myself telling lies and falsehoods I noticed just how many I told.
"I can honestly tell you that I do not lie." is impossible for any one to say once they get to know themselves.
Having said that, I could not help thinking as I read this thread..
Oh what a tangled web we weave
when first we practice to deceive.

Don't even know who wrote it, but it is so, so, so true