frey:
I would be happy to offer advice and comment to help your husband. Just for starters I offer him these bits of wisdom I have learned over the years.
1) Listen. Listen intently to what is said and what is left unsaid.
2) Take control of yourself first, and her second.
3) Don't ask, do. Know enough about your submissive that you no longer need to ask if she is "in the mood" for something. Just do it. Do it unabashadly, and with assurance.
4) In some respects the world is turned upside down. Punishment becomes reward, pleaseing you becomes more important than being pleased herself, for her pleasure comes so much through your pleasure. Learn how to recognize that, and use that for her.
5) It's actually all about her in many ways. This doesn't mean topping from below, it means recognizing her needs and meeting those needs.
6) Adapt. Her needs will evolve, change, over time. Listen to her and spot those changes and accept them. SeaHunter