i am a 26 year old lesbian. with my first girlfriend. i have been with very dominant men an dalways hated the control they liked to take. now i am with a wonderful girl but she is a sub and while i love being in control i have not figured out how to really be forcful with her like she wants.. i want to be that person, i like this role but i am lost. any tips on how to talk to her would be great. i have the hands on stuff down but i do not know how to talk to her. i am a very nice respecful person by nature and so it is hard to break away from that... any tips would be great. she is a true sub and wants me to really take over but i need guidance. any help would be really appriciated..