Quote Originally Posted by FROZENGRAPES View Post
i am a 26 year old lesbian. with my first girlfriend. i have been with very dominant men an dalways hated the control they liked to take. now i am with a wonderful girl but she is a sub and while i love being in control i have not figured out how to really be forcful with her like she wants.. i want to be that person, i like this role but i am lost. any tips on how to talk to her would be great. i have the hands on stuff down but i do not know how to talk to her. i am a very nice respecful person by nature and so it is hard to break away from that... any tips would be great. she is a true sub and wants me to really take over but i need guidance. any help would be really appriciated..

No reason not to continue being "a very nice respectful person by nature." I am and have no problems being true to and projecting my nature.

Here's one possible thing to try. Are you able to go into a restaurant and give your food order to the server? Do you expect back talk? When you ask a question you expect a thoughtful respectful answer? And when you want something more, getting their attention and making your needs known?

Well, just start thinking of your sub as your life "server" and treat her with the same expectations. If you know and acknowledge the legitimacy of your relative positions, it will begin to come naturally.