Thanks for taking the time to read through this one Rowen, you make some interesting observations and points.

With regard to the smart remark, this is a persistent failure on my part to address, I have been repeatedly warned, told, and punished in respect of this. It is a lesson I may never fully learn if totally honest, part of what makes me, me I guess.

As you say and I can confirm when I made my remark, attempted to offer support I did so with the best intentions, I was trying to help, however and I feel that this is the crucial element here I did so in the wrong way.

There were many ways in which I could have offered my support, and my Miss has talked this through with me and I understand this point clearly now.

I, at the time, however let my Dom characteristics surface and tried to impose my will upon my Miss, instead of offering support I was instructing, this was most definitely an act of “Topping from beneath” so to speak.

The intent is academic; it was the way in which I acted that was wrong and thus correctly punished. We do have light hearted discussions and often joke together, it is not all serious all the time, any one who knows either of us will tell you that we are not totally serious people and we both of us enjoy a laugh when appropriate, I was going to say we “share a sense of humour” then, you know the old joke, well we have to because she has not got one, but that would only get me into more trouble.

As for the limits being defined, they are very, very clearly set and agreed, and as a switch the need to ensure that I do not Dom from below is vitally important to us, as such any straying into this area by me is jumped on quickly and robustly by Miss.

The statement was appreciated, it was the way and manner in which I made it that was wrong I can see this and after we talked it through I had to agree that Miss was right, she had to act quickly to preserve the power balance. So yes I accepted my chastisement, understood the rational for it and set about my punishment. Miss was quite right to act as she did, and as I hope I highlighted the danger in all relationships in allowing the boundary’s to become blurred can result in the power dynamic being affected, the results could mean that both Dom(me) & sub end up the ultimate losers. I feel that having had the chance to discuss openly why I was being punished, what had been done wrong, and where I could have delivered the same or similar support in a more submissive way has helped me accept my wrongdoing and therefore my punishment.

Being "blessed" with a smart mouth I did of course seek to extricate myself from the hole that I had dug myself into, however as explained when we discussed it together I could clearly see that I had been wrong, the intent not being the issue here, my actions were inappropriate, and as such were rightly addressed, so no I have no problem with Miss’s treatment of me (and I would be mad to say otherwise)

Thanks again though for trudging through my post.