Quote Originally Posted by Ozme52 View Post
rowen, your questions are all valid, and from my perspective, most dom/mes enjoy the things you ask about... room to be playful, to probe and explore the boundaries, to have a personality of your own. BUT... I will point out that whatever you do, regardless of intent, the perception of your dom/me is going to be his/her reality. If he/she sees an act as playful, then you are in sync. If he/she sees it at disobedient or disrespectful, then regardless of your intent, you were disrespectful and there will be consequences. Punishment? I guess that depends on the defintion. Perhaps the consequence is a lecture. Perhaps the end of the scene...

Oz, I am learning that right now, even if I do find that difficult at times, being the stubborn me. Then again, most of the times there is in fact no discussion and in fact I appreciate the correction.

For example: recently during a chat with a (not "my") domme I couldn't resist replying to a post on a forum. Being myself I told her so.
After the chat in our mails she told me that such was disrepectful "because you were not giving me your undivided attention and visited the forum, making me feel as though our conversation was not important"

She was more than right ofcourse and naturally I accepted the task she gave me. In fact, it felt good to make amends that way. And no, won't happen again.(so stop throwing tomatoes right now please)