Howdy all, I’m JR aka In2kink, and I’m a straight male dominant. I’ve been involved in BDSM for a little over ten years now, primarily offline other than a just a bit of online role playing. I’m divorced and not in a lifestyle relationship at present, just doing the vanilla dating thing.

A discussion with one of my dominant female friends sparked my recent interest in exploring the lifestyle online. Her position is that face to face is the only way to experience meaningful power exchange and BDSM play. Being the curious type and a part-time writer, I decided to see what the online scene had to offer and I hope to write about it in the near future. At first blush it seems like a great way for people to get their feet wet who have developed an interest in BDSM but aren’t quite ready for a face to face encounter. And just from the little I have read on this site thus far, it seems like many people do in fact find exclusive online encounters to be quite enjoyable and meaningful in expressing their kink side.

My introduction to the lifestyle came by way of a female switch that I was dating at the time. Knowing little beyond the general stereotypical information about BDSM, I began as a submissive but pretty quickly she helped me to understand that I was a dominant and not just a bratty sub! She helped me to learn my lifestyle role and since that time I have been blessed with meeting some other great mentors. I’m pretty excited to learn how I might translate my offline experiences to online.

I have a wide variety of interests with regards to the lifestyle so I won’t bore you with listing them here. Just suffice to say that my personal limits involve avoiding things that are illegal, that victimize any person or thing or that violate my own personal ideas about morality. Other than that, most everything else is fair game. I am pretty anal about enforcing rules and I like the more formal and ritualistic aspects of the lifestyle. I wouldn’t describe myself as a sadist per se but I do appreciate the use of degrees of pain within a scene to foster the feelings of being controlled for a submissive and to produce the rather spectacular contrasting sensations between pain and pleasure. Bondage is perhaps my most favorite BDSM activity but as mentioned I like variety.

Long term, I hope to again have a real life, 24/7 lifestyle relationship and in the interim perhaps I can meet a suitable submissive for some online experience to feed my kink needs. I’ve already found much to like about this site and look forward to getting to know and exchanging ideas with some of the very experienced people who are members here.

JR