bip0lar - maybe the lack of high heels and lingerie made the Dom feel less dominant? Maybe that's what he thinks (in his own mind) what a submissive should be; a simpering female teetering around constantly underdressed. Could be his particular fetish.

I say be you and relish in who you are.

As for me...NO I certainly don't spend my day in high heels and sexy effing underwear! lol! I work in a production facility and have to wear thick leather work shoes and jeans and T-shirts. And when home it's usually shorts and a t-shirt with bare feet.