If you saw me in public or even at my home you wouldn't know that I was a sub by looking at me (except for my collar, of course). I never, ever wear high heels. I can't, with heel spurs in both feet! I don't wear skimpy lingerie because it's too damned uncomfortable. I have always been a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl and that's what I still wear. Right now as I'm typing this I'm in jeans and a t-shirt and barefoot. I've been with Master for 9 years now and this has always been my standard attire. Does He think that I am any less submissive that the chick in lingerie and high heels? No, not at all. Yeah, there is that saying that "clothes make the man," but I certainly don't believe that it's true. I've met plenty of men with impeccable tastes in clothes; the tailored expensive Italian suits and yet they were still bastards because of who they were inside as human beings. And I've met the biker types covered in tattoos and black leather and they were the sweetest and nicest men I could ever hope to be around.

Clothes are packaging. And I think that in this lifestyle people assume that they have to dress a certain way in order to get their point across. I prefer to look at a person's manner and how he carries himself and how he behaves around other people. You don't always need to see the whip or the collar to tell who is Dom and who is sub. I am much more interested in what a person is like inside than what clothes they wear. Clothes don't mean a thing. They are insubstantial and are easily removed. And when they come off what do you have? A weak nobody who thought the black leather made him look like a Dom? A woman who truly doesn't enjoy her sexuality but she wore the lingerie and high heels because she thought those would make her appear to be submissive, so it would make her feel submissive as well? A Dom or a sub knows who and what they are inside. And they don't need particular clothes to tell them that.