Myself and my sub have been dating for 3 years. Just a few months ago was the thought of D/s brought up. We've always been into that sort of sarcastic whimsy, but snickered at the thought of bdsm because we had thoughts of strange sadism come to mind and didnt seem to coencide with us. Things I've always done to him like 'play rape' when i tied him to the bed and knifed his pantyhose off (he's a tranny) I've always just thought of as being kinky and we'd laugh about the fun while people gave us strange looks. Well, i started to psychoanalize our situation more deeply and discovered 'yes I am a dominant person with an empathetic nature', and 'yes, he is a sub who loves direction.'
admittedly neither of us believe in what we refer to as 'overkill' like ball busting to be erotic, but I have found he does respond well to light cbt. We're both very new and what we do comes so naturally to both of us but adapting wholey into the scene has us stumbling through things like protocall type stuff. I dont know what to 'make' him do really because I dont really know whats expected of me.. or what I should do. I over analize though and I know that its all good as long as its ssc but I wish there was something like DOMMING 101 lol. it would help me alot. just to see what other people practice and try to adapt it for us. that's why i love this site so much.
also, we're newly getting involved in puppy play. any ideas on that are welcome too.

i seem to lack the ability to talk dirty. i dont know how + when i try it makes me laugh. and the step into domspace is almost too high up to step on without tripping on it. I try but setting a scene has always been a difficult transition for me. I'm normally the weird gothy chick everyone tends to avoid but the friends I make and the people who give me a chance I'm friends to the end with.

and I'm not as strict as I am catty.. sometimes good sometimes not.

so anyway, thats me. xoxo ~Alexia