Female dysfunction...thoughts?

[Flaming_Redhead]

I've been with Him for about 2 months. He's made a few comments about how I generally have a hard time "cumming": when we play. He's said more than once that it may have something to do with me not having been in a relationship for a few years. I don't know if this is normal. I have fun when we;re together but have only cum a few times since.

Not sure if this is normal. If its just because he's quite a bit older. If maybe its because Im self concious around him, being so new to this....any thoughts?

He sounds like my ex-husband. I don't see what not being in a relationship has to do with anything. If you haven't been sexually stimulated in awhile, your libido can actually decrease which is why I hate cum restriction. However, if you've been regularly stimulated via a vibrator, it could be that your clitoris is a bit desensitized. If vibrator use isn't the culprit, it could be that he just hasn't found out what works for you. As far as his age, I generally find that older men have more experience in knowing how to bring a woman to orgasm, but this IS a generalization since my ex-husband is 11 years older and still an idiot! Anxiety can also cause difficulty in achieving orgasm.

As far as this being normal, I don't know since I don't know what's normal for you. It's very normal for me to have a difficult time cumming with a partner. If I'm focused on pleasing him, I can't focus on having an orgasm. If he doesn't stimulate my clitoris at all or correctly, I can't have an orgasm. He may be too rough with it or not touching the right place. I have had to move his fingers around and tell him what feels good. Usually, though, once he gets me going, I can have multiple orgasms....it just takes me awhile to get there. I warn my partners that it's hard to get me off, and if they act like it's too much work....I find someone who wants the job.

[craven]

I warn my partners that it's hard to get me off, and if they act like it's too much work....I find someone who wants the job.

LOL I love it Flaming Redhead, well said wise words in deed thanks for sharing and making me smile