i totally agree.. i have seen what a "bad/cruel" mistress can do to someone. thinking of their own pleasure and not the safety of their little one. So make sure you get to know all they expect of you upfront and know your own "hard limits" know what you are comfortable exploring, and have fun! With the right Owner you can take your body and mind to spaces and places you have only dreamed of, and in the process do the same for your caretaker... welcome!!