Hey *hugs Kay close to him* i feel for you i really do, but if you feel that maybe anxiety is playing a playing a part here then at least you know what you have to work on, maybe easier than it sounds i am sure.

But if you talk to your partner, be very open and honest, then maybe you then both in the right environment and setting take your time to explore your body together, no rush, not need to reach the winning post first or second or any time soon, but both realise that by taking the time to explore this together now in a relaxed and intimate way you will both reap the rewards together later.

i really hope that the two of you can work this out together, and please dont let yourself get hung up on it, i know that you will resolve this together.

*hugs you more*