Psychology Of Verbal Degradation

[IAmCanadian]

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2. Denigration of fundamental characteristics

"Words have the power to both destroy and heal.
When words are both true and kind,
they can change our world."

-Buddha (Gautama Siddharta), 600 BC

“And when words are both untrue and unkind, they can make her cum. Really, really hard.”

-Flesh Seraph, 2008

In denigration of fundamental characteristics, the masochist feels the discomfort of having the defining characteristics of her existence degraded, and in being complicit in that degradation. The racial, religious, philosophical, physical and ethical facets of her being come under harsh judgment here, their good qualities turned into bad. The sadist takes on the tone of one critical of those characteristics. In reduction to vulgar simplicity, above, all subtleties of a submissive are cruelly ignored, including defining characteristics. In denigration of fundamental characteristics, these same defining characteristics are singled out for abuse.

One might think of it as the targeting of demographics to which the submissive belongs. Each person on earth clings closely to an identity that is some combination of demographics. Age, body type, race, and religion are four examples of defining characteristics. By taking careful measure of which traits the submissive uses to define themselves, the master can pick and choose which areas to attack with his words. Usually, the right avenues of attack are obvious. Look at her, visualize the first word that comes into your head, and then go to work on that. Usually, it will be age, body type, or race. You can even go to a more basic level and attack a person’s sex.

To a masochist, the verbal dismissal and abuse of these defining characteristics is the mental equivalent of a white-hot poker pressing repeatedly and implacably against the skin. She is not only lowered by subjugation to the words, but this her subhumanity proven by the enjoyment of them.

The appeal of this to a masochist who wants to be lowered, and the progressive nature of the degradation, is obvious:

Q: What is lower than someone using a racial/religious/age or body-related slur to your face?
A: Enjoying it.
Q: And what’s lower than that?
A: Begging for it.
Q: Lower still?
A: Getting off on it.
Q: And the lowest?
A: Craving it after the fact and returning for more.

The above “Degradation Sequence” is true in every one of these verbal degradation archetypes. All of them, on some level, are based around the idea of desire for things most would consider undesirable. Just like most people would never yearn for a taste of the whip…who in their right mind desires a tongue-lashing?

Let’s talk a little bit about some of the sub-categories here. This is by no means an all-inclusive list:

Sexual – Denigration of women by men is so common that it actually has its own name- misogyny. Sex is an even more fundamental characteristic than race or religion and you can make the case that it’s the greatest divide of all- before there were ever segregated bathrooms in the American deep south, or water fountains only for “colored” people, there were separate washrooms for males and females. A woman first and foremost identifies herself as a woman. A good verbal abuser will pound on that until that identity isn’t worth a damn.

Ethnic – For many people, ethnicity is the number one defining characteristic above all others. Identification with one’s own ethnicity, and its importance, is recognized at every level, so much that laws are in place to prevent discrimination and hate speech against these identities. Obviously, with this much strength as a characteristic, it makes perfect sense for a sadist to attack it first, and harshly. I’m a white, middle-class scumbag from the usual mongrel European ancestry, so from the misdeeds of my own people I’ve learned how to denigrate other races. There’s not much to say about my methodology here except to say that (unless a boundary has been established beforehand) anyone from any foreign country or minority group that winds up as my sub is going to know it.

Religious – This is very similar to Ethnic, in that people often identify themselves first and foremost based on their beliefs. Everything I said above about ethnicity still applies here, but there’s an added wrinkle. Unlike ethnicities, religions can be renounced. Some of the most fun I’ve ever had as a dom is making my sub renounce her belief in the Bible, the Koran, or the Torah and turn her worship toward something more immediate. I’m sure you can imagine what that is.

Body Type – Treading on dangerous ground here. Many people have genuinely negative feelings about their bodies that they don’t have about their religions or ethnicities, and so this is more likely to be a boundary. Believe it or not, I’ve gotten the most enjoyment out of this using it on a sub who had beaten an eating disorder. I would call her fat and there was no truth to it at all- she was actually just fine. But the memory of her previous feelings about herself would surface and add authenticity to her degradation. (Yes, this is edge play.) In any case, I’m sure I don’t have to explain how body-type and overall appearance can be a huge identifying feature to most people- and fair game for any sadist.

Cultural – The poor man’s version of Ethnic. If your bitch is bone white and doesn’t believe in any God, you have to find some way to harangue her. Just to illustrate the difference, calling someone “white trash” is a cultural, rather than ethnic, slur. It brings up images of unsophisticated, desperate poverty.

Age – Basically the same as body type- and if it isn’t a boundary, you should hit it. An older woman considers herself experienced sexually and otherwise, its your job to tear that down and point out the cracks in her (weathered) foundation.

Dominant Examples:

“Why else is a bitch like you even on this planet, other than to pop out babies, suck my cock and do the dishes?” (Misogyny)
“You’d almost be beautiful if you weren’t such a dumb [ethnic slur].” (Ethnic, also denigrates educational qualities)
“I can barely look at you, you’re such a [religious slur] piece of shit.” (Religious)
“You might as well suck my cock- you stuff every other thing in your mouth, you fat cum-bucket.” (Body type – Big, also contains what I like to call recepticalization)
“You’re nothing but worthless trailer-trash, aren’t you?” (Cultural, eliciting a response)
“You old bitch- I’m surprised there aren’t tumbleweeds rolling out of that dust gulch of a cunt.” (Age – Older)

You can mix and match these to form compound denigrations. For example:

“God, you’re such a fat, useless [ethnic slur]. When I see what a [religious slur], fuckmop you are, it makes me want to puke.”

The submissive examples are similar, but can often take the form of apologies for her defining characteristics.

Submissive Examples:

“I apologize for being a useless and weak woman, I’m nothing compared to you!” (Misogyny)
“I’m sorry I’m such a useless [ethnic slur], sir.” (Ethnic)
“Fuck [deity of choice], I just want to suck your cock!” (Religious)
“I’m sorry I’m such a pig…please have mercy on this fat bitch!” (Body Type – Big)
“Yes, I’m nothing but a cousin-fucking trailer-slut!” (Cultural)
“I’m just a nasty old cougar on the hustle for a young cock in my ass!” (Age - Older)

Regardless of how it unfolds, a denigration of fundamental characteristics can provide ample psychological pain to the masochist while strengthening the bond of trust between master and slave. The ritualized practice of degrading oneself for the pleasure of another (or accepting degrading remarks without protest) empowers the master and shows the utter mental submission of the slave. There is also a feeling of trust that develops, wherein the slave accepts criticisms and harsh words from the master that she would never accept from anyone else, establishing him as her one and only guiding star, the only man alive to whom she would entrust the golden key that locks away her self-esteem.

- FS