What do you consider infidelity in bdsm? Is there such a thing?
I believe that infidelity in a BDSM relationship can be a greater tragedy than "normal".

While marriage is a weighty and meaningful institution, slavery and submission are even greater commitments. There is an entire process devoted to the dissolution of marriages, but submission to a master is something done outside the law, and inside the human heart.

I try to imagine how I would feel if the slave that I had treasured somehow went astray, falling into the arms of another. To me, it's unthinkable. In the ideal relationship I envision, I would be her life, and she mine- I would be her guiding star in all things, and she my greatest treasure. Like a guardsman standing through a hurricane, at the tomb of the Unknown Soldier, I would protect her. Like the most treasured of all properties, I would keepsafe her and raise her to a place of prominence in my heart.

Infidelity in such a case seems unfathomable. To have her taken away from me by the slick words and temptations of another would destroy me- and for me to invest so much in her and then move on to another would be the ultimate cruelty. Like throwing my precious treasure into the marsh at the side of the road. No master should be able to look himself in the mirror if he does such a thing.

It's certainly true that there's a lot of kink involved with BDSM and there may be other men or women involved in the course of exploring sexual ideas and desires. But the bond between master and slave that forms inside their respective hearts, that yin-yang covenent of mutual absolution and acceptance, is so solemn a pact that I think infidelity even more a sin in this case than in the case of a traditional marriage.

I should add before I go, though, that every relationship is different. Not every couple aspires to that sort of devotion, and the tragedy level of any given indiscretion fluctuates with the value of the relationship which it betrays.

- FS