Infidelity and BDSM

[Ozme52]

But you see, Oz, that's her take on infidelity and what defines infidelity for her. That's valuable input for someone facing a situation where they're considering being unfaithful, because that "vitriol" may be exactly what that person's partner reacts with. And no amount of calm, reasoned arguments by us uninvolved folks will make a difference in that.

When the partner is reacting with that "vitriol", saying "but so-and-so on the website didn't think it would be cheating" is a less than effective argument.

Sorry brother but if you go back and read it again... she's calling out anyone who lives differently and is calling them... us...

down right sleezy, good-for-nothing, selfish, maniacal bunch of sh!ts.

[Ragoczy]

Sorry brother but if you go back and read it again... she's calling out anyone who lives differently and is calling them... us...

I read it fine, it's called a moral judgment. I believe that someone who's unfaithful -- and please note that I mean "unfaithful" by the standards of their relationship and not my own -- is far worse than "down right sleezy, good-for-nothing, selfish, maniacal bunch of sh!ts."

I have zero respect for someone who knowingly betrays the trust of their partner.

Now to the point I was trying to make that you responded to:

If someone reading this thread is facing a decision, then that post is a valuable one for them to read because their partner may have the same attitude. And when their partner finds out and is screaming at them that they're a sleazy, god-for-nothing, selfish, maniacal little shit, them saying "well, Ozme said ..." will not have a calming effect. So being exposed to that perspective may save someone some grief.