There's a difference between arguing that the message was overly voracious and arguing that it says something about a certain lifestyle when it clearly doesn't.
If Oz wanted to argue that she was being unfair in emphatically denouncing the dishonest, deceptive brand of infidelity just because sometimes there are extenuating circumstances, why didn't he just make that argument?
Instead, he tried to say that she was speaking against polyamory, open relationships, and swinging. When she obviously wasn't.
- FS