Ok, time for me to finally post here.
I'm 29 year-old Dom from Canada. For most of my twenties I've been cycling through an unfulfilling triumvirate of boring vanilla relationships, half-assed online BDSM relationships, and being single. I've been inspired by some of the stories I've seen here, and some of the people I've met, to dedicate myself to the goal of meeting a submissive with whom I "click" enough to achieve a 24/7 (or near it), master/slave relationship. Relationship-wise, I was rudderless for a long time, but having arrived here and looked around, now I know this is what I want.
In terms of kink, I am a sexual sadist with a strong focus on (and talent for) verbal degradation and humiliation. Because of this proclivity, my counterpart would have to be a masochist, someone who would thrive on such treatment where conventional women might falter. I seek a submissive who enjoys being treated like a subhuman, stupid bitch- and with a mind sharp enough to revel in the contrast between that treatment and how she would be treated in a "conventional" relationship. Note that I'm not interested in someone who is *actually* subhuman and stupid. Rather, I am searching for an angel with qualities of wit and beauty, who is willing to crash through the clouds and down to the sordid earth, just for me.
I have always enjoyed the mental side of S & M much more than the physical, though the physical side of course if the one that gets most of the press. I'm perfectly willing to inflict pain (with bare hands or impliments) but it's never been my first choice- I prefer to inflict pain by tearing down established feelings of self-esteem, self-worth, and female identity. This is why I need to find a partner who can see the appeal of setting aside her myriad feminine complexities and becoming a dumb, worthless cum-bucket for as long as we both can stand it.
I am hoping to meet a vibrant woman, equally stunning in intelligence and physical form, who is willing to accept my collar and live the rest of her life as my companion, servant, and greatest treasure. A sense of humor and a sharp mind are a great start. Far from a cowed and hesitant slave who will never act of her own accord, I am looking for a proactive beauty is forever trying to find creative ways to please me. Together, we will aim to strike a perfect balance between her submissive proactivity and my orders and requirements.
The slave is not giving so much freely for nothing in return. She is buying something with her service, trust, and love. A Master who will cherish and love her until the end of her life, provide for her every need, and protect her with his life. In giving me these things, she purchases fair and honest discipline and the sharpening of her mind and body, and the absolute relationship security that comes with being the only woman alive able to fulfill the desires of her Dom.
Obviously this isn't the sort of relationship a person begins with just anyone. I don't intend to enter it lightly, or with the wrong person. I also believe I still have a lot to learn about the lifetsyle, and I'm learning more every day. It may be unrealistic for me to hope for, but I'm not afraid to hope. Perhaps it will take years for me to find the right person. But when it happens, it will be worth it.
- FS