Infidelity and BDSM

[annie]

"Respect" isn't unconditional and there are some acts which strike a strong, negative chord with people.

If a child-molester or rapist came here and started describing his exploits, would you "respect" him or speak out against him? No, I am not implying a moral equivalency between these and infidelity, but they are all things that some people consider to be wrong. Good people, when faced with wrong, speak out against it.

Opinions can be stated without being nasty about it though... even strong ones.

[Ragoczy]

Opinions can be stated without being nasty about it though... even strong ones.

Granted, in general, but this is a sensitive, personal topic and that tends to bring out the emotion. I'm sure there are some real-life experiences that contribute to the strong feelings; probably some who had a partner who was unfaithful and others who may, right now, be hiding their participation in this community from a spouse. Displaced anger or defensiveness, either one gets people emotional.

On the other hand, I like a heated debate with high emotions, so I didn't see much that would keep me from taking anyone in the thread out for a beer after the discussion.

[cadence]

Granted, in general, but this is a sensitive, personal topic and that tends to bring out the emotion. I'm sure there are some real-life experiences that contribute to the strong feelings; probably some who had a partner who was unfaithful and others who may, right now, be hiding their participation in this community from a spouse. Displaced anger or defensiveness, either one gets people emotional.

On the other hand, I like a heated debate with high emotions, so I didn't see much that would keep me from taking anyone in the thread out for a beer after the discussion.

Of course it is a sensitive subject, but someone brought it upon themselves to bring up the subject of cheating on a partner, and took it upon themselves to denounce and degrade anyone who would dare even think about it. I haven't read through all of the posts but I haven't seen any other posts come close to being disrespectful to anyone else.

I don't mind reading or participating in heated subjects, I rarely post to them, as I am ill equiped in the fine art of informal logic.

I am fine with others having an opinion, everyone is entitled to thiers, I am fine with people being judgemental, they are also entitled to have thier say.
However I believe that there is a distinct difference in judging others and doing it in a way that does not promote sweeping generalizations.
There is a difference when someone measures thier words carefully and doesn't speak them in vain. Personal preference and tastes, should be kept quiet.
Then there is a person who believes that they have full reign to "fully speak thier mind" regardless as to how they do it.
It's childish and rude.
That may make me a hypocrite and judgemental as well, but I don't put up with name calling and abuse towards others.
Being judgemental in this fashion typically calls out to individuals or groups and labels them.
A person can have a strong opinion, but they should use tact and discrection while doing it.