This is a mostly a question for people who are completely dominant and don't even like to think about switching, although of course everyone is free to chime in.

Do you only think about dominating someone when you're attracted to them? I.E., if you find yourself wanting to give someone little instructions, or thinking about hurting or punishing them, does that mean that you're kind of into them? Or is feeling that way about people in general just part of your Dominant identity, and doesn't mark any particular feeling about that person in particular?

Yes, I am trying to figure out whether someone is/was into me. I'm a switch, and not really a lifestyler, so if I "switch" into either sub or dom mode with someone it means that I'm attracted to them... but this guy is a lifestyle Dom, so it might mean something different for him. That's why I'm asking you.