Attraction and Dominant Identity

[Ragoczy]

For me, yes, in general I have to like someone or find them attractive, either physically or mentally before the thoughts start entering my head. Something about them has to engage my interest for that, not just that they're in the room.

[CookieMan]

While I am far from the most heavily versed Dominant on the site, I'll put my two cents in. I don't know how it is for other folks, but for me, I am a natural leader type person. What I mean to say is, people naturally seem to look to me to direct them/lead them. That sort of thing just happens. Do I feel that I 'need' to tell them what to do? No. For me to want to give instruction/hurt someone on a sexual level, I have to be attracted to them. That being said, I find myself giving instruction to people quite often. Circular post? Yup. Basically, what I mean to say is this: I don't feel a need to tell someone what to do/hurt someone unless I am attracted to them already. Make sense?