I've been thinking....

[DowntownAmber]

rNt: Heh heh heh, does anyone take the time to read your name before pegging you as a Domme?

In all seriousness though, there's nothing wrong with you being exactly the way you are and feel like you want to be. You're no more or less a "real sub" than anyone else, you simply may find you're a more unique cross-section of the varied submissive personalities. All that potentially means is you may have to wait a little longer to find a more unique Dom.

Honestly, try not to think of yourself as not sophisticated enough of a sub to be able to portray the "right" submissive qualities - instead realize that not everyone who approaches you will be sophisticated enough to tell that we come in all sizes, shapes, and personalities. And frankly, if some of the "obvious" signs of protocol arent there, I would ask a person I'm talking to if they are Dom/me or sub as well. Nothing to be offended over.

[icey]

and there was me thinking you were a sub *rolls eyes*

how on earth does being ''in your face'' online count as being less submissive? because in all honesty we can all be one hundredfold braver and in your face online, in reality we might not dare say boo to a goose lol in fact ive met a couple of people here at the library and im pretty sure they could tell you that i am fairly timid and have to try really hard in person to be confident! (and even then i surprised both Icehawk and myself each time how ''loud'' i was! lol) yet on here i can be way more open and ''in your face''
being submissive these days and in the bdsm context as with many things is in reality very very different to the original context of the word.
i mean if we were to take it literally then the majority of posters here at the library just wouldnt have anything to say or at least not the inclination to say it, ''submissive'' submissives just wouldnt post! cos hell online or not we would be just too passive,tamed, resigned and docile! if you're resigned about something you're hardly likely to post and dispute it are you ...more likely to push the thankyou button lol