Hello and Welcome,
Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable about. If you want start out small with a little bit of name calling, see how you feel and take it from there. If you don't like it then don't do it.
It's understandable that you want to be able to make your partner happy, but if you are not happy with it, it won't work.
I would suggest to you that you post this question in the submissive forum, you may get a few more answers to your question.