Of course it's easier to give yourself a big orgasm! It's a little trickier for someone else to do it. It takes me a long time to cum that way with a partner. He has to stimulate my clit with his thumb or tongue, back off, stimulate, etc., while simultaneously fingering my G-spot and my ass until his hand cramps. *lol* Anal sex and clitoral stimulation will do it for me. Asphyxiation is a sure fire way to get a scream out of me. I need to start dating an octopus. *ggls*