hi my name is kyle. no bondage humiliation and pain don't always have to go together. They can go together but it all depends on what the Master or Mistress and slave or sub are into. There are many different ways to humiliate or cause pain without bondage. I guess it really boils down to if you feel that you need to have bondage to feel pain or be humiliated. If not then tell the person you are interested in that you don't want bondage all the time