As BDSM is a lifestyle choice then the preferences of the individual must be taken into account. I thought that the idea of safe words was supposed to be recognised as the failsafe so players wouldn't be injured. If the dom doesn't respect the use don't go near them! BDSM is fun for all concerned and should be safe. OK, pushing the boundries is fun but should be approached with caution. I always approach new players with a question and answer session to find out their level of experience and how much they can stand. BDSM is NOT about violence, it's about power sharing. The sub is ALWAYS in control. If you don't agree please feel free to say so. Great community, let's keep it friendly. Love you all.