Quote Originally Posted by damyanti View Post

I find those women who say that they are not feminists to be spoiled, rude and ungrateful. And also ignorant, because one of the meanings of the word feminist is to be of feminine character. So if you are not feminine, what are you, butch?
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Sorry ladies, you cant have it both ways. You cant say I am not a feminist, but I want choice and equal pay. You want want want...well, sorry, but without feminits you are nothing but a pair of tits and an ass and nobody cares what you want.

*I appologies for crude language, but I was demonstrating a point.*

Let's see... I'm not a feminist. I am spoiled and extremely grateful for it. Rude? Well, on occasion, I've been known to be. Because I don't consider myself a "feminist" does not mean that my character can't be feminine.

I can have it both ways, I don't have to be a feminist and say I want to be equal to men in all ways. I don't believe that pay and choices should have anything to do with whether you are a man or a woman. However, I am a lady and I FAR prefer to be in the company of gentlemen.

Also, at another point you said "It has been my experience that women who proclaim that they are not feminists are the ones who just want to stay home, go shopping, do nothing and have a "sponsor" who pays for it all and are too conceited to lift a finger. They want to be treated like a lady. In Europe we call them WAGs, and if thats a lady,...I prefer to buy my own handbags. To me a man is a person, not a wallet. "

Again, I am not a feminist. I am a stay at home mom, which is a really funny title, IMO. I, like most "stay at home moms" that I know am not home very much. I do go shopping frequently and spend quite a bit of time at it and therefore am frequently able to save loads of money by comparing and waiting for sales and finding the best deals. It's not uncommon for me to spend $100 and come home with a $500 value.

As far as "do nothing" I have to laugh. I spend one week a month on call 24/7 for a disaster relief organization. I am then on call the rest of the month to answer questions, teach classes, mentor other volunteers and to respond to larger disasters. Approximately 3-4 times a year I answer the call to respond to disasters in other parts of the country, as well. Oddly enough, although I am a lady, I have at times driven a forklift for this organization and the men I was working with still treat me like a lady.

My "sponsor" certainly does pay for everything including my handbags, although I do pick them out myself. This arrangement does not appear to trouble him. In fact, he rather likes that he doesn't have to deal with me having a work schedule that keeps me from him. Being a volunteer, if he decides to come home early and wants me with him, as frequently happens, I am there.

As far as seeing Rago as a wallet or a person, I see him as neither. I see him as the center of my universe and I LOVE that he sees me the same way. I am very glad that I have never given in to the idea that I can't have everything I want and I can't have things two ways, because that is exactly what I have and I'm grateful for it.

-kitten