Psychology Of Verbal Degradation

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Much has been made of the fact that verbal degradation is a dangerous practice in that legitimate self-esteem issues may present themselves if the master is negligent in hauling his submissive back from the abyss. I can see how this might occur, though if you realize you’re causing actual damage and continue to verbally abuse your partner, you’re a sociopath, not a master. This behavior breaks the bond of trust that is so very important. A woman willing to subject herself temporarily to her own feelings of worthlessness and subhumanity needs to be protected from the incubation of such feelings.

If one verbally humiliates a woman over and over...I'm not really sure I understand how one goes about protecting them from really feeling that way afterwords...? Especially if it is over a period of time?

Second, there has always, always been consent. I have never pushed a verbal hard limit. Never verbally abused anyone who didn't want it, or who was clearly becoming upset. If I sub has too many verbal limits for me, I find another sub. I don't try to bend what shouldn't be bent.

What happens that if over a period of time the sub/slave starts to believe the things she is called and calls herself is true?

And what happens if the verbal and physical humiliation is stopped because the sub/slave is upset? Wouldn't that just make her feel extra worse about herself, that she couldn't deal with everything you (or anyone) wanted from her?