We all begin somewhere.

Without knowing more about your paticular situation and experience it is hard to advise.

But consider this,: the needy feeling or vulnerability you are feeling is not in fact irational at all.

If you uncomfortable feeling this way could it be becuase most of our lives we are taught that as women we are supposed to be all self sufficient and independent and never be under someone elses power?

Are we not in fact taught by society to look down upon the woman that does embrace her submissivness?

Then ask yourself which way feels right for you. The answer may surprise you and its not ussually a all one or the other answer eaither. Most often its a blending of the two.

My best advice is to take things very slow.

Beginings only happen once so you should savor every moment. Your submission is precious and shouldnt be surrendered to just any ole dom swinging a whip.

Above all, don't run off all giddy to submit when the first person calling themselves a dominat shows some intrest.

Dont let some online or real life dominant control your access to information, its allways sad to see this done (especially with a new sub) and is actually a sign that the dominants insecure and or affriad that you may find someone better or learn how little they really know.

Saftey first, kinky fun second!!!

This includes pictures and other personal information shared on the web as well as real life.

If a partner is really right for you; they will have the patience to see your value and they will be very understanding of any saftey conserns.

I hope this helps you boo
hugs and kissess
denuseri

PS:
Feel free to pm me or any staff member if you have any conserns or questions, i am allways ready to help my sisters