New sub dealing with new feelings of "neediness"

[wonderworld]

I misworded some of that. I can see issues arizing from being out of comfort zone -even though that is where I am trying to go.... so I am trying to figure out ways to deal with that. Time... ahh...excellent advice. Thank you both!! yes, not really needy so much but a bit like alice in wonderland.

[hopperboo]

I can see issues arizing from being out of comfort zone -even though that is where I am trying to go.....

Ironic.

And I feel the same way.

Great comment.

[leah06]

yes, not really needy so much but a bit like alice in wonderland.

Oh my, yes. Partly it's being in another world, but also - remember how she kept changing size without any warning, so that as soon as she found her place in the new world she was no longer "herself" and had to rediscover herself and find a new place? I think she even tells one of the characters (the caterpillar?) that she doesn't know who she is any more.

And yes, personally, this makes me feel needy because I hope that someone else can anchor me. Luckily, while I don't love getting older, I have been on this earth long enough to know that, even in bdsm Wonderland, no one else can anchor you.

Also - discovering real, strong needs that you didn't know you had can make you feel, well, needy.

(I gave up vanilla dating too. So sweet, so boring.)