I just recently talked to my Dom about similar feelings, told him that I had never felt needy in the past and I fight some of my feelings now. He told me that he has never seen me as needy at all and reminded me that needy and vulnerable are 2 different things. Without him saying it I believe he enjoys my vulnerability but he has said on more than one occasion that he is very thankful that I am not needy....I have yet to completely wrap my own brain around this concept but it might help you make some sense of your own feelings. Good luck.