I believe that there have been some very good and insightful answers given. I would only add that when we find ourselves in a unfamiliar situation or behavior, we automatically try to digest and categorize the emotions associated with it. Many time we are surprised by how we feel and other times confused.

The more we become accustom to the behavior the better we will understand it. so your "neediness" my fade away and be replaced by a more accurate emotion over time.

Good luck stay in tune with those emotions

Plainsman