Thanks for the explanation - I am a bit behind the times with computer terminology!
I am really glad you liked that photo - sometimes an "ordinary" situation can be very erotic - when I return to that photo of Mariko I keep remembering that it was not always cake that she ate!
I am not sure how dominant I really am - I do not know other peoples experience but I always wondered if it was a mix of dominant and masochistic?
It was great to get Mariko to do the things she eventually ended up doing and to feel I could move her down that path. It was also an enormous stimulation to see other men climaxing in her and to be able to watch her mixed reaction to this.
But sometimes I wonder if I also was controlled by the situation. Watching other men (please pardon the expression but I think it may be appropriate in context) fucking my partner had a sensation at times of "rape fantasy" and me being a "victim" about it - the "forced to watch" syndrome. I wonder what others think.
Still somehow it worked out for us and we are still together.
I thought you might like these photos - one getting her prepared for a session and another when we were in the Phillipines on holiday. Mariko did not have much say whether or not Maybe one dominant and one a bit ambivalent?