Mariko's Training & Development

[manshimajin]

Quite a number of years ago now I was living in Tokyo and like many westerners had a Japanese girlfriend.

At the time Mariko was in her 30s and had made that decision common amongst Japanese women that she was better off not forming a long term attachment to a local male. As I got to know her more it turned out that she had many of the prejudices that seem to prevail in Japan (and still do) - particularly when it came to the idea of sex with non-Japanese, non-caucasian men who she looked down on. I gathered that these attitudes had been instilled in her during her childhood by a disciplinarioan and nationalistic father - who had spent much of WWII with the Japanese military in China. Perhaps you can get the drift... but it was not unusual to find this view just under the surface.

I decided that it would be both challenging and enjoyable for me to gradually change her viewpoints by exposing her to the types of experiences that she saw as beneath her.

The first photo from that time was one I took in our apartment. One of her most enticing features was her beautifully shaped rear. I began my scheme for training her by working on this, developing a sense of her buttocks as a sensual and erotic zone - preparing for the day when I would deflower her anus. it was rather like waiting for the right time to drink a good wine - much of the pleasure is in the anticipation. Whilst she continued to refuse this form of sex the concept was being built in her mind. I had also been working on a more traditional Japanese sexual activity, bondage.

One day when the time was right I used the situation of having Mariko bound face down and buttocks raised to take advantage of this offered. Despite her protests and growing panic I worked my erection hard in her crack knowing it was now or never. After some minutes of working on her and trying to gain entry into her tight passage against the resistance she was attempting, I managed to line up OK, pushed hard and felt the clenched muscle of her sphincter suddenly yielding to my pressure. I tried to make it as comfortable for her as possible but Mariko's groans made it clear that she did not enjoy the loss of her anal virginity. That evening I left her tied and sated my previous frustrations by taking her several more times in her rear.

The next stage of her training was to be introduced to sex with other men which we worked on slowly. The photo of her spreadeagled was taken at the start of a Friday night session with four friends. That particular session went on sporadically until the next morning. On some occasions I would remind her of the humiliation people like her father had visited on the Chinese and tell her to imagine herself being serviced in the same situation. It was always interesting to see and hear her reaction to being taken this way by a number of men. Her responses were that classic BDSM mix - the panic at not being in control mixed with the thrill of being forced into accepting what others wanted to do to her.

Group sex inevitable also moved to exposure to men of other raical backgrounds - something else that she resisted at first but gradually learned to accept. The first few times that she was taken by coloured guys can best be described as fearful submission on her part.However the miv of group sex, bondage and anal experience got to the point of her being able to accommodate, with some difficulty, anal sex with Afro-American guys from the Yokosuka naval base. It was also quite an experience for them as they normally found themselves being rejected by Japanese women.

At about this time, given her previous haughtiness, she was also introduced to double penetration as a way of demonstrating her submission and humility. In the end she had plenty of experience this way - never entirely willingly but accepting the training.

All of this eventually turned Mariko into a person with much broader sexuality and taught her to show respect and servitude to people she had looked down on in her past.

In our older years we still enjoy a varied sexual life based on these experiences - though even now she tries to avoid offering her still shapely behind for me to pleasure!

[wingsofanangel]

BEAUTIFUL pictures. They are not.. at all.. porn like. They really look like art. You have captured something wonderful here. She indeed is VERY VERY lovely... her body is beautiful. Kudos to you for expanding her horizons... and those lovely ass cheeks!!!

I LOVE these pictures!

Anya

[manshimajin]

Thank you Wingsofanangel for your thoughtful messsage.

You are kind to say that the photographs do not seem pornographic to you and to admire her body - which was and still is, in my eyes at least, beautiful.

Mariko's training obviously involved elements of bondage and submission for her to experience forms of sexuality that she was culturally nervous or negative about. At the same time I was not trying to use violence to force for example anal or interracial sex on her. After working on different new sexual ideas we often used bondage as the final step in breaching the barriers that she had from her upbringing and to overcome any final nervousness at yielding. In a funny way it really did combine East and West - with the various forms of ropework being very Japanese and widening sexual expriences and experimentation very much a Western approach.

When she had learned to accept and enjoy new forms of sexual activity BDSM then became, and still is, part of our mutual ways of yielding and pleasuring each other. I think it is a way that Mariko can stay true to her roots whilst allowing things to happen that she would never do in her Japanese mind.

[Ruby]

She is stunning.

The photos capture her emotions as well as her beauty.

Thank you for sharing these wonderfully erotic images.

[manshimajin]

I thought that you both may like this photograph of Mariko overcoming her prjudices.

[wingsofanangel]

again beautiful...

I'd love ot see as many as you can share..... whose the white gentleman in the first set of pictures? He is riding her from behind...

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

He was a European guy who was working in Tokyo at the time - we got to know both him and the other man quite well as they lived in the same district and we'd see them at restaurants and bars. They jumped at the idea of sessions with Mariko. This one was in a hotel room we rented for an evening.

Others may find it a bit strange but I found it exciting and erotic to see her yielding to other men (and bringing them to unstoppable fever pitch)- particularly knowing her cultural background and having a fair idea of what was going through her mind as they entered her body, worked it frantically and finally climaxed in her.

[wingsofanangel]

Interesting.. its really a neat story...

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Some more photos of Mariko that I hope you enjoy seeing.

As mentioned we sometimes practiced bondage as a way of trying out new activities or overcoming the final barriers that she felt.

Naturally I am biased but I reckon in many ways her femininity was emphasised when she was in these types of submissive positions.

Let me know if you would like me to post any more of her.

[Sir_G]

Very nice Manshimajin, beautiful photography, a beautiful sub what more can you ask for except more pics please.

Also can you enlighten me as to the translation for your handle. Many thanks.

Greg

[wingsofanangel]

Once again incredible.

she has lovely nipples BTW.

Keep em comin!

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Gregsta and Wingsofanangel thanks for your messages. That is one of the great things with a forum - reading how others react to situations you have experienced.

Gregsta you say 'what more could you ask' - to be honest not much! I am very lucky. As I said to Wings ofanangel before, others may think it odd of me, but it has been a fantastic experience for me to have had Mariko as a partner and to have watched her learn new things and to have seen her yielding to others in ways I could never have anticipated when I first met her. I know others will object, but seeing Mariko held tight and penetrated between two rutting men for their pleasure and often with a touch of ambivalence about her own responses and feelings, was always a real turn on. Her submission to this and other things was in some ways sacrificial – her hesitant gift to my pleasure. Lucky!

Thanks wings for your kind comments - please excuse my lack of knowledge but what is the meaning of BTW?

I'll see if I can attach some more pictures which show aspects of Mariko in different feeding situations - hope that you like them. I am not sure if the clip will attach - I use a viewer called VLC media player that seems to be handy for most things like this. (It didn't attach - sorry for that). I have attached another photo of Mariko in the early days of our relationship when she was quite innocent and I had not had the chance to train her into some of the more western sexual activities (hope you like it anyway).

PS manshimajin is part Japanese, part European - like my relationship - shima is island, jin is person and man is the name of an island where I once lived .

[wingsofanangel]

btw- by the way.

Sorry, hehe. I try not to use PC talk, but it slips in sometimes.

I REALLY love the picture of your girl eating... that little come hither smirk she has it too PRECIOUS! She appears to be a real gem. You must be quite a Dominant to be able to mold her in such a way.. yet not break her. Kudos to you both.... a wonderful example!

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Thanks for the explanation - I am a bit behind the times with computer terminology!

I am really glad you liked that photo - sometimes an "ordinary" situation can be very erotic - when I return to that photo of Mariko I keep remembering that it was not always cake that she ate!

I am not sure how dominant I really am - I do not know other peoples experience but I always wondered if it was a mix of dominant and masochistic?

It was great to get Mariko to do the things she eventually ended up doing and to feel I could move her down that path. It was also an enormous stimulation to see other men climaxing in her and to be able to watch her mixed reaction to this.

But sometimes I wonder if I also was controlled by the situation. Watching other men (please pardon the expression but I think it may be appropriate in context) fucking my partner had a sensation at times of "rape fantasy" and me being a "victim" about it - the "forced to watch" syndrome. I wonder what others think.

Still somehow it worked out for us and we are still together.

I thought you might like these photos - one getting her prepared for a session and another when we were in the Phillipines on holiday. Mariko did not have much say whether or not Maybe one dominant and one a bit ambivalent?

[wingsofanangel]

I love these too... Guess I love all the pictures you took!

so how long have you been together?

are you husband and wife now? or D/s or.. ??? something else? Anyway congrats to lasting so long and really sticking together.

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

I just happened to open the file and saw your message - many thanks.

We have been together now for over 20 years as married partners in crime! It seems to have gone by too quickly!

I hope that these photos are ones that you will also like. You mentioned Mariko's come hither look which I think shows up here. Being Japanese I am not sure that she thinks of herself as a 'come hither' person but both I and the men with whom we have had sessions over the years would agree with you.

I included the one of her in the onsen as its a favourite place for us but also I simply think that she is very erotic from the rear with or without company - biased!

Looking at other topics in the forum is this thread OK to pursue - I was wondering if it is suficiently in line with what members normally prefer?

Regards

Manshimajin

[latina69]

Thanks for sharing your story with us and the pics are beautiful.... I really enjoyed them, you really captured the momment... Do you have any more pics that you can share with us?

I also would like to know more about your relationship... Husb/wife or D/s!!

[wingsofanangel]

Oh of course! Its a lovely thread! A lot of people here either prefer not to look at pictures... some prefer more.. hardcore.. and some maybe don't like... antiqued looking pictures? i dunno..

I think they are awesome either way. You two have been together as long as I have been alive hehe.

And yes, she has a wonderful come-hither stare.. its beautiful and charming!

to be honest... usually asian women don't really... appeal to my eyes... ( i am not a lesbain either.. just like to look at women )

like i see asian porn and stuff and its like... eh... but she has something about her... very very captivating. Perhaps her spark and fire come through in the photos? She seems to have a real zest about her. Be proud of her...

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Thanks - I am proud of Mariko and the way she has done things really for me.

Attraction is a strange thing - too deep for a short message! Mariko has a great personality and is not a typical Japanese woman - her attitudes have become more and more open. I am no psychologist but the inner workings of the mind often seem to become visible in the external person... getting philosophical in my old age.

Please don't take this the wrong way - but I am amazed at what you say about your age - you think in a very interesting, experienced and sophisticated way - and, yes, I know that is not just the realm of the over-40s and 50s!!!!

[Silke]

Oh my God, just found this thread! Please, please, PLEASE keep your stories and pictures coming! They are wonderful and truely an inspiration.

[wingsofanangel]

Its good that you cherish Mariko. Even though she does not act like a typical japanese woman now.. I am willing to bet she's always had a fire a bout her. You can see it in her eyes, a glimmer... even when submitting she has this look of " i will not be broken" i love it.

and thank you for the comment about my age. To be honest.. sometimes around here I feel so un-intellectual... and like a lil kid playing in an adult world. I understand the D/s scene quite well I think... I am just naive sometimes and unexperienced in certain aspected of life... but in others I am well beyond my years. Its hard to feel... "adult" or like I blend in though.. sometimes... but I am trying. So thank you for your comment.. it means a lot

Sera (anya)

[wingsofanangel]

Pix just got approved...

#2.. is AMAZING... that is realllllllly a beautiful picture. I love the water reflecting on her bum. Her body has a wonderful.... profile? Is that the word?

and again... in Pic 3... there is that smirk... I would love to know what was going through her head. She is captured wonderfully in pictures.

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Thanks to both of you for your messages - Wingsofanangel and Silke.

I should be replying seperately but am not technical enough to do that! Can you advise?

WOA you sound to be a fascinating combination of youth and experienced. I think most of us looking back wish we had the vitality and spirit of youth and the experience of years...just think, you may be achieving what the rest of us would have liked to have been.

Silke, your comments are appreciated - it would be great to hear more of your thoughts. As you can probably tell from the messages between WOA and me I was a bit concerned that our experiences were perhaps not deep enough into BDSM for group members.

Neither Mariko nor I are into hard pain type activity (I learned to back off quickly when we tried nipple clamps!) but our relationship has evolved along a more physicallyy sexual route.

To pick up and comment a little on what you said WOA - I think that I have tried in some ways to break Mariko in to sexual acceptance and experimentation beyond the rather straight-laced and 'superior attitudes' of her Japanese upbringing and Japanese peers. But I think a sort of balance occurred over time. As she became more accustomed to submitting to new types of sexual activity she took on a changed role towards me. On the one hand she was yielding to my will, accepting my 'dominant'.

On the other hand I think she saw that by taking enjoyment from the sexual activities I arranged for her she was also in a way a bit 'dominant' - she was not only being made to service other men in all sorts of ways but was also being letting me know that she in turn was being pleasured by them - trying to make me a bit jealous and envious in return.

I think that this has kept a sort of balance in the relationship which has been stimulating for us and kept us together - not a one sided approach.

This was what I was not sure quite fitted in with BDSM.

I will try to attach two more photos. The first is another one of Mariko experiencing a light but constraining form of bondage. the other is a bit blurred but I like it as it brings back memories. This was taken just after a group session had finished. Whenever I look at this I can remember how Mariko lying exhausted in the hot spring had shortly before been actively engaged in sex in most ways with a number of us. It still makes me feel excited despite the 'iffy' quality to think of how her mouth, breasts and thighs had been working and now looked tired and in need of rest!

Then sometimes recollections are great treasures. Hope you like a bit

[darknightwood]

Graciuos man, this is unique! What a sub you 've got. Don't worry if it fits BDSM or not - you and your lady are into something different and way out. The last picture may be a bit out of focus but I'd love to drag her well-fucked, drained, dripping body out of the water with a couple of friends and force her into a rape-style workout. Those nipples look just ready for chewing as does her thatch.

Imagine what it would be like for her to be lying on those boards, her legs held spread open having to accept impregnation by another group of horny men just after finishing another group session. Awsome. Could she last the pace? Might just get rid of her come hither look though.

People should know about this thread!!!!

[Silke]

Silke, your comments are appreciated - it would be great to hear more of your thoughts. As you can probably tell from the messages between WOA and me I was a bit concerned that our experiences were perhaps not deep enough into BDSM for group members.

If I've learned one thing through my journey into the lifestyle it's that there are no fixed categories in this. Every couple plays differently and enjoys different forms of any combination of the letters BDS&M. So, no - I'm not worried at all whether or not your photos, thoughts and experiences fit with people here or not - I simply sit back in awe and enjoy.

What makes this thread so fascinating to me personally? The meeting of cultures and how both of you found your challenge and love in this, the amazing beauty of Mariko and how well it's captured in the photos...so much emotion there, it blows my mind! And it's amazing to be able to read your story and be taken along by the pictures - the fact that you share what happened at the time and what feelings were involved makes this thread a gem to me. There are not that many people here who share as freely as you have done so far. Thank you.

I don't usually check the picture threads daily and don't know whether I can comment regularly here, but please know that I'll always come back and hope for new posts, even if I don't comment every time.

Silke

[Silke]

Oh, just one more thought...

I think that this has kept a sort of balance in the relationship which has been stimulating for us and kept us together - not a one sided approach.

This was what I was not sure quite fitted in with BDSM.

I don't think BDSM relationships are ever one sided - to me it's always a give and take.

[wingsofanangel]

I agree with everything Silke said....

Again wonderful pix.

Sera (anya)

[manshimajin]

Silke and Wingsofanangel as always thanks for your messages which encourage me to keep up the posts. I am glad that the world of BDSM can include the experiences that Mariko and I have shared.

I am delighted that you find the photos arousing Darknightwood - I am not at all sure how Mariko would have reacted to your fantasy though. On occasion she found bondage sex and its implicit inability to stop whatever was being planned for her very exciting.

Hope you all like the attached - they represent two sides of her character.

DNW dream on!

[manshimajin]

Hi and thank you very much for your messages.

I’ll try and focus most of all on the last message from Latina but I very much appreciate all your comments and kind support.

Latina, you asked about the relationship that Mariko and I have. In a way it has been a mix of husband and wife, partners and D/S. Sometimes who has been D and who S has not always been that clear. To start with in our relationship I was the D but over time things evolved into a more complex relationship.

As our relationship developed the main thing was to try and make it erotic not just physical. We found that a lot of our pleasure came from what was going on in our minds not just to our bodies. I think the best way of explaining this to you is to explain a situation I still remember as one of the more erotic ones.

In the 90s we were living in central Tokyo and had built up a good number of gaijin friends. One weekend Mariko and I were going to a ryokan in the mountains. Some of you may know this type of inn – very Japanese-style rooms, great food and hot springs to relax in and tons of Japanese tradition. What Mariko did not know was that I had arranged for some of our friends to also come along.

When we got there Mariko and I went down to the hot springs to relax after the journey. This was one of the ryokan with separate male and female bathing so I was able to get back quickly to our room and make some preparations. An important feature of the inn was that the rooms had the ability to be divided into two sections with what is called shoji in Japanese – these are room dividers made with lightweight wooden frames filled in with thin translucent Japanese washi paper inserts. They are purely dividers not for soundproofing etc…

By the time Mariko got back I had laid a futon down in the far end of the room and persuaded her to take off her yukata. Telling her I fancied a bondage session with her I laid her down on her back on the futon, tied her arms at the wrists stretched out behind her head and her legs up towards her chest and spreadeagled to give deep and optional penetration.

It was dark by now and I switched on two strongish lamps on the far side of Mariko so they shone towards the screen. I closed off the screens to hide her behind. The delightful and really erotic thing was that her body was silhouetted on the screen in a dark outline of its shape. Our five friends then came to the room as aroused as me by the sight on the screen. We were in no hurry as Mariko was held firmly in place. I went back and turned of the lamps so that our meal could be delivered to the room without exposing Mariko’s predicament.

We sat around drinking and eating. At this time Mariko was probably going through a range of intense and mixed feelings anticipating what her role would require and wondering how many of us there were. We did the normal of drawing lots to have an order to the night’s activities. When the meal was removed I slipped back and switched the lamps on again. Mariko had a glazed expression on her face. Then came for me the most incredibly erotic experience.

As we chatted one of the guys got up and went across the room, opened the screen, stepped inside and closed it behind him. We could see his shadow on the screen standing over the prone silhouette of Mariko. Watching the shadow play was far more erotic than an open display. Off came his yukata, dropping onto the floor. His shadow shape knelt between Mariko’s legs. Even if her gasps had not indicated what was happening the shadow movements clearly indicated that he was enjoying her orally. The inevitable then followed. His shadow rose up to form the shape of a male body and moved forward and down onto its knees, partially obscured by the dark outline of Mariko’s raised legs.

Perhaps there should be a study on the noises a woman makes when her body is entered. There are the quiet ones, the noisy ones and the ones like Mariko who make sort of animal cry.

As the friend’s shadow merged with hers the rest of us heard that animal cry escape her lips into the room confirming to us that just on the other side of the screen Mariko and the friend were now coupling. For me this was that mixed feeling that is so exciting. Domination on the one hand, arranging for Mariko to have sex this way - and on the other that sensation of watching my wife being taken by someone else incapable of resisting his thrusting erection. The movements in shadow on the screen added to this ambivalent sense and to the awe and envy of the scene.

The guy worked away and we could hear the mixed cries coming from the other side of the room. When he started to come it was like being alongside watching but having to imagine what it must actually look like just over there. The grunting and groans told us that his climax was a great one. For me the sound indicated that as I listened my partner was being impregnated deep inside by another man as she lay helpless on the futon. It fed very much into my forced to watch sex fantasies. When he emerged he looked pretty satisfied.

There was no hurry from the rest of us to get to Mariko – we drew out the experience for her. Over and again the shadows playing on the shoji screen provided a two dimensional vision of the sexual actions being played out on the other side as Mariko was made to accomodate each of our lusts. Whilst the shadows did not show it, once or twice the more drawn out entry cries indicated that one of the guys was using her outstretched position to probe her anally rather than vaginally. When it came to my turn I have to confess that I had the most fabulous sex with her.

Some of the guys went back for ‘second-helpings’ before we untied her. She was exhausted and just clung onto us. We got the other futons out of the wall cupboards and spread them on the floor. For the rest of the evening we lay around kissing and fondling Mariko and then fell asleep. Occasionally I woke up to find someone having another session with Mariko and a few time to see her being DP’d.

For the next couple of weeks I had a very submissive wife and she had a very hungry husband as I worked through all those amazing mixed emotions that the session had created.

I hope that this kind of explains an aspect of our non-standard D/S type of relationship for you. I’ll try and add a few more photos - hope that these two are good to look at - I always like views of Mariko's rear - I thonk she is very special from behind (and from in front) but as always I am a bit biased - just a little.

[latina69]

She has a beautiful ass and you should be very proud of it....

The more you tell of your story I begin to understand the connection the two of you have... But I have a few questions... Is your fantasy only to see her with men? And sorry for asking but are you bi and are you getting an additional thrill to all of this? Also do you guys switch because you stated that you have struggled with the rolls of the relationship... Are you now here in the states ( I think you said you were) if so how is are things different here from there pertaining to the lifestyle....

The pics are aesome you really have a good eye...

Again thank you for sharing your story of love, passion and kink... You have a beautiful story and I think we can all learn from it....


Raven (latina)