What is BDSM?

[denuseri]

Sematics Damyanti for me the terminology one uses to identify themselves is just that "terminology".

If you are submissive than you are. If you subordinate yourself to another than you do.

It doesnt define me, i define it.

[damyanti]

LOL, I am still trying to figure out what I am and to what extent. As people learn, people change...I am also in the process of experimenting with some things, that not so long ago I would have sworn I couldn't do. I am not trying to fit myself into some predetermined mold, just trying to find out what fits me.

I especially like psychological aspects of BDSM, its something that interests me very much...and when a topic interests me so much, I have a tendency to try to learn about it as much as I can and ponder on it...until I can reach satisfactory conclusion and let it be what it is.


Right now I am trying to pinpoint the correlation between submissive and subordinate. When I say that I am submissive, but that I am not a submissive person...the reaction I usually get is "you are not (real) submissive".

Before coming to the Library I never equated submission to subservience.....but I am reexamining that now, because sadly terminology matters. Thus my question...Does submissive necessarily means subordinate?