babmina, why don't you try a strictly on-line D/s relationship. If you want to try, write to me at biggreek100@aol.com. I'm a writer for the bdsmlibrary and you can check my work there. I will never chase you or pester you. I'll make a point of finding out what you want and need and I'll give that to you without complicatons. Master Lewis Chappelle