Take it one step at a time.

What is the likelihood that you will go to a real slave auction? A big BDSM event?

I think the example of Elliot Spitzer - although a good cautionary story - is a little different. It's something he was currently doing & it's illegal.

Expirimenting in this venue is a little different; you can always chalk it up to young hijinks...

If it's a "lifestyle" you choose to continue living, then it's something you need to reconcile.

But I go back to take it a little slower. When you do get that invite to the real slave auction, then come back and ask the question.