New Sub Needs Advice

[DIXIE LASS]

Quote:

Originally Posted by mic8565:
It was a pretty dry conversation.

First of all, most (not all, but most) men have 5 expressions of communication: grunt, lol, yes, no, smiley face. They can't help it. They're made this way. Probably something evolutionary to do with being silent while hunting mammoths. And please note, 2 of these expressions didn't develop until the last few decades and they are only used online.

Second, you aren't exactly a font of verbosity yourself. I looked at your profile page and your other post. Your profile info is arid to the extreme. (probably 40% of the people on here are "submissive females" and my guess would be that approximately 65% of all members were "new" when they first came to the site.) Your one other post has generated 3 replies and all 3 indicated confusion due to lack of information on your part.

So, perhaps the first place to start is to ask yourself if you are doing your part in encouraging conversation and a sharing of ideas. There's a plethora of information on both writing and conversation skills at your fingertips: on the web. After a few days of looking at other profiles, go back and edit yours and actually tell us something interesting/unique/personal about yourself. Ask yourself if this man asked you questions and if your answers were only "yes or no". In other words, make sure you are doing your part to prevent "dry conversations". And please take this criticism in the spirit in which it was intended: to help you identify and rectify problems.

Finally, sometimes you just get one who cannot or will not express himself. If that happens and you are left unsatisfied, then it's time to find a new one.

Welcome to the site. Hope you enjoy your time here.

DIXIE

[blythe spirit]

*nods in agreement with Dixie*

Do have a gander at Aesop's Tips for Beginners. It's very informative and you might discover some truths there for yourself.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4529

[Ozme52]

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First of all, most (not all, but most) men have 5 expressions of communication: grunt, lol, yes, no, smiley face.

Huh?

[SubmissiveDoll]

Huh?

Smart ass... lol

[DIXIE LASS]

Huh?

Smart ass... lol

I stand corrected. Will add "huh" to the male repertoire list, although technically it could be part of "grunt".

DIXIE

Sorry for this late response. 'Puter has been misbehaving. LMFAO.

[Ozme52]

Isnt being a smart ass unbecoming in a Dom... whereas when subs do it, its cute and amusing.

I stand corrected. Will add "huh" to the male repertoire list, although technically it could be part of "grunt".

[blythe spirit]

I stand corrected. Will add "huh" to the male repertoire list, although technically it could be part of "grunt".

DIXIE

Oh my, Dixie, are you saying that a Dom's "huh" sounds like the deep sound a hog makes? tsk tsk tsk. See, when you say stuff like that Oz scratches his head and gets flakes all over the forum. hehehe.