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[guest010609]

Ok, so really im not usually a jealous person...thats what makes this so insanely confusing for me

so on this site i met a dom. very nice guy... we've had an online relationship for a while and i was really enjoying it.

when we first started chatting he asked about boyfriends etc, and i asked what experiance he had, if he had any other subs now etc. he said he has had subs in the past but right now has no others...

i recently found out that he does... and i dont know... it just kind of hurt.

i dont know if im more jealous, or offended that he lied. these online relationships really only work if honesty is involved... what do i do!?

im not sure if it bothers me that he has someone else... but i would have liked to deal with it from the start... not this far in...

help

I am in a non-mono, married M/s relationship... for us, it is fabulous; but we are honest and constantly communicating about it. We have also had poly relationships in the past, and the biggest mistake in those was always lying, and lack of communication. I personally can't handle the idea of my Master having a bdsm relationship with someone else, anymore (his encounters are always casual and vanilla). The bottom line is that there are two issues here... one is that he lied. I can't imagine being able to really work that out in an online format. The second is that, lying aside... would you even want to be with someone who is poly? If you think that might be ok, or even very enjoyable...then great!-- That opens up possible new relationship avenues for you. But, regardless I would not try it with him. Liars don't make good friends, much less doms. And poly doms have to practically be superman.

[Hime]

I am in a non-mono, married M/s relationship... for us, it is fabulous; but we are honest and constantly communicating about it. We have also had poly relationships in the past, and the biggest mistake in those was always lying, and lack of communication. I personally can't handle the idea of my Master having a bdsm relationship with someone else, anymore (his encounters are always casual and vanilla). The bottom line is that there are two issues here... one is that he lied. I can't imagine being able to really work that out in an online format. The second is that, lying aside... would you even want to be with someone who is poly? If you think that might be ok, or even very enjoyable...then great!-- That opens up possible new relationship avenues for you. But, regardless I would not try it with him. Liars don't make good friends, much less doms. And poly doms have to practically be superman.

Yeah, same here. I'm poly, I don't even mind if my husband has a BDSM relationship with someone else, and I have zero tolerance for jealousy, but I also have zero tolerance for lying. There's a big difference between being jealous and feeling hurt that someone lied to you.