Let's try this again.

TotallyMoi, without addressing any specific reply you've received, I just want to say that you shouldn't doubt the validity of your sadness. Online interactions are as real and valid as offline interactions and often serve as the basis for eventual "real life" contact. There is no clause in the social contract that dictates a man shouldn't be held accountable for promises or statements made via computer. Your relationship isn't any more or less serious and worthy of empathy or consideration than any other on earth, online or otherwise.

Communication is communication is communication. He lied to you- and now you have to figure out the next step. Don't take it lightly, but don't automatically rule him out, either- he may have been scared of hurting your feelings, or had other reasons for which you might be able to forgive him, if he's able to re-earn your trust subsequently. If that's not the case, though, then you have to make the right choice for you and not let yourself get treated poorly.

There are plenty of doms out there who will make you their one and only shining star.

- FS