"One thing that is really new to me is that I am less in control of my sex-drive as the man I am with. I am used to guys who want to have sex all the time and would jump at the chance when I only imply that I might be inclined to as well."

OMG Laila, you took the words right out of my mouth. That was one of the aspects which really shook my picture of the world. It is so true!

To the subs out there, especially the new ones: Keep this in mind by all means if you happen to come across one of those jerks who like to think if they just CALL themselves a "Dom", they can order any submissive girl to kneel naked in front of her cam, or something, and thatīs "BDSM"... it is not.

One of the most outstanding characteristics of a true Dom is self-control... in all areas of his life.

If he cannot control himself... how is he ever to control somebody else?