Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
Recently the question was put here whether being a switch makes for a better dom/sub.

I would think so in many cases, because you know a lot about what things feel like on the other side of the fence. But try to pose that question on your average bdsm list, and you are likely to get less than respectful answers..

I myself have pondered these comments:

If you both submit and dominate, then you cannot be really serious/devoted in either.

Or that a Dom or sub is born that way, and that is just the way it is.

Or that doms/subs never ever switch.

Or they get in the way of each other in a practical way.

I would be very interested in hearing what others have to say here, as I myself have some problems with getting things straightened out in my head.

i don't "look down" on switches, but i don't understand it either, unless when you switch it is for a different gender. i feel this way because a submissive is a submissive and it is ingrained in your personality, just as a Dom is a Dom...perhaps some people don't "take switches seriously" because in some minds, switching might seem like they are just in it for the fun of it and not for what D/s really means. i have sexual feelings for women occasionally, though i have never acted on them, but when i imagine playing with another woman, i am always in control and she is my little slut, so i would most likely take a dominant role when i do have sex with another woman someday. but i am a submissive through and through and could never place myself above my Dom in any way, and if i were to ever have sex with another woman, there is no way i would allow her to have any control over me whatsoever.

p.s. i just realized i am in a 'switch' forum...my apologies for commenting here...i was browsing through the forums and just posted without looking to see where i was.