I date vanilla quite happily - as long as the vanilla person is non-monogamous and/or tolerant of my own non-monogamy. Right now I have a vanilla boyfriend of 3+ years, a real-life friend-with-kinky-benefits, and an online master. My boyfriend and I have based our relationship on the shared connections we do possess, alongside the freedom we grant each other to explore our individual passions, in and out of bed. This is not an easy way to conduct one's affairs (pun intended) and I wouldn't blithely recommend it, but it works for me.