The subject of possible child abuse was raised but what about early religious training or influence? In my own case, I was raised as a Catholic attending religious schools. The nuns and priests taught that sex was for procreation only. Yes, it could be enjoyable but that was to be considered a side effect. Should one find oneself enjoying sexual thoughts or "accidental" touching one was supposed to try not to enjoy it. BDSM fantasies were a way to "excuse" such pleasures. After all, if one was forced to enjoy it, then it wasn't a sin. Right? <grin>

I wonder how much such repressed urges enter into the development of BDSM practitioners.