Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
For those of you who are single and either Dom or sub...do you date 'vanilla'? And if you do, how does that work? Do you at some point tell the other person who you really are, or just keep it to yourself and get those needs met elsewhere?
I've not actually been out on a real date in years, probably close to 10 - usually just catch a flick or dinner or drinks with friends or some of the guys from work, hook up with a couple of friends that are in the "with benefits" category. That's pretty much my comfort zone... But later this month, I'll be spending the weekend with a guy, who as far as I know is of the vanilla variety. He's someone I've worked with on a couple of projects but quite definitely far enough outside of my organization to not involve any potential job complications should it not go well. He did entice me with hockey tickets - how can I say no to that?? It does feel very strange, even just to contemplate, an actual date weekend. Even with a very nice successful professional guy who doesn't still live in his parents' basement! But I figure that I've really got nothing to lose but a bit of time and if I don't like it, well, I can always leave. And it totally beats having to spend time with my family!!