words, actions or both?

[jeanne]

Sometimes regular life gets in the way. But, I agree with the other comments - this issue needs clarity for you. It is hard for submissives, when they are used to a certain level/amount of interaction, to have that interaction taken away. As long as I know ahead of time that He will be incommunicado and for how long, I'm okay. Sudden disappearance...not okay. I give Him the same consideration, of course.

[sinderella]

i got the clarification i needed. i was walking around with my eyes wide shut, and reading other people's thoughts here and privately really helped me to realize that. as someone else said somewhere to another seeking advice, the answer is always in front of you already, and it was, so i let him go, and i feel like i can breathe again. this would have been a lot harder to do if i hadn't found you guys.